Showing posts with label in the moment. Show all posts
Showing posts with label in the moment. Show all posts

Monday, 21 December 2015

Comet Tails and Coal Dust

Day 22 (Tuesday 22nd December 2015)


22 is referred to as "two little ducks" in Bingo. Bingo's roots can be traced back to Lo Giuoco del Lotto d'Italia - the lottery established in 1530 in Florence after the long Siege,
as a means of raising funds for the state. The game spread across Europe. It was called 
Le Lotto in France and consisted of a square of card marked out in 3 rows and 9 columns with
numbers from 1-90 arranged at random in the boxes. A caller announced numbers as they were drawn.
The game travelled to North America in the 1920's and was called 
Beano (due to dried beans being used
to cover numbers once called and also being shouted when the first horizontal row was filled).
Legend has it that the name Bingo came about through an over-excited mispronunciation of Beano.
100 million people play bingo today.
Today's blog has been written by Trevor Black. Trevor was born and raised in South Africa, but now he lives in the UK. His parents had a passion for learning and creativity (both traits Trevor has inherited). Being academically accomplished and highly intelligent, Trevor commenced his career by qualifying as an actuary and working within Investment Management. He is rare in that he is both highly analytical but also is charismatic and curious - Trevor enjoys stimulating conversation and challenge, so it is no surprise that he subsequently transferred into a direct client-facing role. In autumn 2014 Trevor decided to go it alone and pursue his own passions - he blogs daily, you can read him on http://www.swartdonkey.blogspot.co.uk/, is always up for a challenge, is a talented artist and entertaining and thought-provoking companion. You can follow him on Twitter (his handle is @trevorblack


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When you look at the Pale Blue Dot picture of earth, we are less than a pixel. We are all the same pixel. It is difficult not to feel insignificant when the comet passing the earth, and the ‘large’ rock we call home melt into one, from far enough away. And yet, as that comet passes by and it continues on its journey, it is the only thing that matters. Each time we do something, it is the only thing that matters. Each time we think something, it is the only thought we have. Each time we look at someone, they are the only person in that moment with us.
Our lives are composed of stories and patterns. We connect things. Nothing exists in isolation and so we constantly look for reasons why they do. 



To help us predict what will happen next. To give us a sense of control. But hidden in the tails can be events that define everything. That change everything. The thought that we had put such importance on previous specific choices brings a wry smile. Each thing we do doesn’t matter in the broader context of everything that matters to us. And yet each thing we do is the only thing that matters.



The patterns that define our lives may turn out to be noise. They may turn out to have contained grand directional meaning that withers into nothing. The thing that cannot ever wither into nothing is the AND. The individual connections between things are eternal in time and space. 



Life may not have meaning. Life is given meaning. The meaning is what a thing is connected to. Parent AND child. Mentor AND mentee. The relationship between two things is far more important than the direction. Moment AND meaning.



From those connections, we can find the energy to drive us toward the things that matter. The warmth of a glowing coal, whose energy is released. Whose energy is transformed. 



Those connections are the coals. They are the glow. Even as they may pass, or break, they lead onto something else. We are only partially in control of the pattern of life. What we are control of is how we respond. What we are in control of is the current moment. Even if real control is just the ability to focus. To savour the moments and connections with which we are presented.



So that when those moments become dust, and they will, they will have been worth it. When those moments become dust, we will not have been so obsessed with them that we didn’t have perspective. Yet their dust will be part of the fabric that makes us up. We will have been half-hearted fanatics. Saving energy. Keeping our fire burning. Looking after ourselves. Looking after those we love. Looking at the stars. Creating and appreciating a world and a universe to which we are deeply, and intimately connected.



Thursday, 1 January 2015

A reflection on appreciation… Day 33

Day 33 (2nd January 2015)

33 bones in the human spine.
Prior to adolescence, the spine consists of 33 articulated bones
because the sacrum’s five bones and the coccyx’s four
do not fuse together until adolescence.

Over 1/4 of the spine's total length is created from cartilage
the sponge-like substance that separates one vertebral disc from the next.
Photo: exterior of an Osteopath's practice in Shoreditch, London
The first Friday of 2015 and we are treated to an uplifting piece written by Dawn Smedley, who works as an "Appreciateologist" at O.C.Tanner. It is perhaps no surprise that her post is a reflection on appreciation. I know Dawn through Twitter (her handle is @DSmedders) and she oozes genuine enthusiasm, interest and positivity. She is based in Milton Keynes and, in addition to having a passion for her work, she is a loving wife and wonderful, proud mum to two beautiful girls. She writes a blog about the things that are important to her.


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It’s definitely the time of year for reflection and as I thought of what to write for this wonderful series of blogs, it got me thinking about appreciation’s role on my personal path. You might think that, as an Appreciateologist, I would be consistently good at giving appreciation. Most people I come into contact with from a work perspective would absolutely testify to this. I am so passionate about this stuff, I live and breathe it. I have an infectious enthusiasm and it is absolutely part of who I am. 


However, I have a bit of a confession to make...


The Confession by Giuseppe Molteni, 1838
Wiki Commons
My realisation over the course of the last few months is that whilst this is great from a work perspective, I’m also spending less time appreciating those people in my life that mean the most to me – my wonderful husband, my beautiful girls, my amazing family, my fabulous friends and myself.
Dawn with her husband and daughters
My blog is an apology to them and to myself. On my path, I am realising that to give my best in any part of my life, I have to apply all of the things I talk about at work to myself. I have to appreciate and recognise all the good things that I do and stop spending so much time dwelling on the things that I don’t, I need to switch off my devices and appreciate the time that I do have with my family and friends, I need to listen to the stories and messages I share with my children…then apply them to myself, I need to speak with my lovely family and friends more because I know I always feel so much better when I do, I need to absolutely be in the moment when It happens rather than always thinking about the next thing and I need to be true to myself, who I am and what I stand for at work but more importantly in all that I do!
“Each of us is born with a gift, an ear for music, a knack for science, a flare for writing.For a time, these seeds of genius lie dormant within us, then it happens.With the mark on a page, or a comment with a smile, someone we trust appreciates a task well done and appreciation changes everything.
It awakens our gift from slumber and makes it real. Talent becomes expertise. Potential becomes performance.
We look around and see possibilities everywhere, in everything, and we’re inspired to invent, to create, to discover, to change the world. All because someone appreciated our potential!Then the real epiphany comes, the fastest way we can change the world is to appreciate the potential in those around us!”
Seeds of Genius
"Paisley" Quilt designed & made by architect Bruce Seeds, 2011
It’s easy at this time of year to start thinking about all the things that you will change in 2015. A New Year always feels like it’s a chance to start afresh. My promise to you all and to my family and friends who I will be sharing this with, is that this starts now. And I hope in reading this too, you all take some time from your own path to think about how you can appreciate those around you and yourself more now, today, tomorrow and every day forward.
Have a wonderful 2015!
With appreciation,
Dawn
PS The text in the middle is our philosophy at OC Tanner but isn’t it interesting that this applies in all aspects of our lives! You can watch the video here.


Appreciating potential
Snow carving of cat seeing its inner lion in a mirror by Keith Martin and team
Second prize winner at Whitehorse International Snow Sculpting Challenge 2014
Yukon, Canada