Showing posts with label assumptions. Show all posts
Showing posts with label assumptions. Show all posts

Thursday, 11 April 2024

Living on the edge

Hong Kong, with its towering skyscrapers, bustling streets and scenic islands is more than just a special administrative region of China; it’s a melting pot of cultures, traditions and beliefs. In some ways Lo Ting, Hong Kong’s distinctive mythical creature, which supposedly still resides in family groups on and around the island of Lantau, is an apt emblem for the region. Being half-man, half-fish, a Lo Ting is able to straddle and survive in two environments, much like Hong Kong itself has thrived as a crossing point between the East and the West. But there is more to Lo Ting than its ability to cope in challenging conditions. I think it has much to tell us about DEI (Diversity, Equity and Inclusion) and the way we treat and accept others.


Jimmy Keung’s Lo Ting sculpture that was commissioned by Oscar Ho
for the 1997 exhibition at the HKAC – Photo by Ilaria

Lo Ting’s are first mentioned by a civil servant in the Tang Dynasty (618-907 CE). He was compiling a census of the region and gives descriptions of an amphibious species living near Lantau. By the Qing Dynasty there is an explanation as to how the Lo Ting evolved. It is claimed that initially they were warriors who fought for General Lu Xun (still a popular character in martial art films and manga), to try and overthrow the Jin Dynasty. Lu Xun led an unsuccessful rebellion in 410CE. His army was forced to flee from revenging imperial authorities – this resulted in their hiding and living “little better than beasts”, partially on land and partially at sea around the southern islands. Gradually these people became viewed as being amphibian and hence the legend of the Lo Ting began. Lo Tings lived secluded lives at the margins of society. Supposedly, in addition to relying on fishing, they became salt producers on Lantau; until, in 1197CE, the Song Emperor decided to nationalise salt production, resulting in a massacre of salt manufacturers during which most Lo Ting and significant numbers of the Tanka boat people were killed.

Linking the Lo Ting to the Tanka is significant. The Tanka still exist, a declining community, some of whom continue to live in their fishing boats on the shores of Hong Kong and neighbouring regions. For centuries they have been persecuted by those in power and the wider public. Colloquially referred to a “sea gypsies”, in the 18th century they were banned from marrying outside their community or from living onshore; the land-dwelling farmers fought them to prevent them from getting land; and more recently their fishing-based lifestyle has been impacted by stringent environmental laws and government policy.

People tend to overlook or reject those whom they see as different from themselves and whom they believe could potentially be a threat or awkward to interact with. All too often, we make assumptions. The colour of a person’s skin tells you nothing about their religious beliefs. The fact that someone is sixty does not indicate that they are ready to retire or wish to slow down. A fatter than average person is not de facto lazy. Youth does not prevent someone from being an excellent manager. Being female doesn’t make you a bad driver. Being male doesn’t make you a bad nurse. It is very easy to stereotype. We form opinions thanks to our own upbringings and experiences, but by excluding people or groups we diminish our own and our organisations’ ability to innovate and progress. So often the best ideas can come from an unexpected sources – frequently the new joiner to a company questions why things are done in a certain way and proposes a new and better approach – listen to them; an individual joining from a different industry can make suggestions that will enhance a product or way of communicating (virtual reality, initially developed for gaming, is now being used for training in medicine and industry and AI is transforming Finance and smart analysis of data is enhancing education and the outcomes for children). Rather than marginalising those who stand out as being different, we should welcome them and celebrate what they have to offer (ideas, experiences, aspirations) for the benefit of us all.

Despite their mistreatment, Hong Kong is indebted to the Tanka. Many people don’t know it, but Hong Kong gets its name from them – when the British first arrived in the 19th century they asked a group of indigenous people on fishing boats what the place was called. “Hong Kong” was the reply – Hong Kong are the Tanka words for “fragrant harbour.” Their language is now almost obsolete, their culture dwindling, but the name Hong Kong lives on.

Friday, 12 January 2018

What if...? - Day 44

Day 44 (Saturday 13th January 2018)
44 years ago, in 1974, Joe Pass, the exceptional jazz guitarist, was awarded theGrammy Award for Best Jazz Performance. He was born on the 13th January 1929and commenced playing gigs when he was just 14. He developed a heroin addictionin his late teens and spent much of the 1950s in prison. After a two year rehab, hereturned to the music scene recording with many of the greats including Frank Sinatra,Dizzy Gillespie, Count Basie, Johnny Mathis, Herb Ellis, Duke Ellington and herecorded 6 albums with Ella Fitzgerald (The below YouTube clip isfrom their performance in Hannover in 1975).


I'm off to the theatre with friends today. We are going to see The Ferryman, it won three awards at the Evening Standard Theatre Awards back in December (Best Play; Best Director; and Best Emerging Talent). I saw it at the Royal Court when it first opened, it will be interesting to see what I get from a second viewing. I really hope that my companions love it.

I bumped into today's author last year when I was at the theatre, on an outing with my youngest son. I suppose I shouldn't be surprised, given that Michael Paterson initially read English at university and, in his own words "back when newspapers were newspapers and the internet was a baby, he used to be a reporter." He saw the light and decided to change careers into HR. He is a quick learner and had found his niche; he was promoted to Head of HR within five years of gaining his CIPD qualifications. Quick witted, commercial and engaging, he is a popular and knowledgeable professional who has an excellent track record of helping organisations and those within them to achieve results. His roots are in Scotland but he lives in south London (in a district that regularly is cited as the "best place to live") with his wife and three gorgeous children.

I am delighted that Michael will be coming to work with me and my team a little later in 2018.


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I was well into adult life before realising that a true assessment of darkness can require more listening than looking.


On a whim, I took an evening course on business coaching, starting off curious but a little sceptical (it is, after all, easy to mock coaching) and ending up engaged and fascinated. Principally, I’m a believer in using coaching to help others, but the tutor convinced us of the fringe benefits of coaching oneself, questioning rigorously every preconceived notion rather than passively listening to our train of thought. This can be a battle when the internal monologue can reach 4,000 words a minute. But many find it a worthwhile battle.

So, how would a coach approach a theme of darkness and dawn?
We’re inevitably drawn to start with the phrase ‘the night is darkest just before the dawn’, attributed to Thomas Fuller. It is patronising to quote that to someone who lost a relative in the Grenfell Tower blaze in 2017 or even someone who managed to survive four nightmarish years of occupation in Raqqa before its liberation. These situations are the extremes that most of us never face.



But sometimes we can benefit from applying coaching principles to everyday life. Why do we think this nuanced situation is going to turn out badly? Are we making assumptions? On what basis? What emotions are unleashed after we make an assumption? Why assume the worst? It’s easy to react to the ‘what ifs’. I tease my wife: “Are you test driving an emotion by working out how you will feel if this thing that probably won’t happen does happen?”


Do we coach ourselves in darkness or listen to ourselves unquestioningly?  It can help to practice the difference.
The Christmas story is set at a dark time in the history of the people of Israel. It takes place 400 years after the end of the Old Testament (the equivalent passage of time is from Shakespeare’s death to today); there has been a long period of divine silence. The Romans have invaded. Things look grim. It was easy to ask “what if this never changes?” and get depressed. But the Christian tradition is that in Israel’s darkest hour, dawn was coming. In retrospect, what looked like darkness wasn’t.
Some of us in the UK having been turning on the radio with dread in recent mornings as England’s cricket team surrendered the Ashes in Australia. We can’t assume the worst. It might not always be like this. Go back to the late 1920s and it was England who pummelled Australia. Then came the greatest batsman of all time, Australia’s Donald Bradman, The Don.


Fortunes were largely reversed for 20 years. The Australian singer Paul Kelly has some gentle wordplay with our theme in his eulogy to The Don, Bradman:


They say the darkest hour is right before the ‘dawn’
And in the hour of greatest slaughter the great avenger is being born.


Our inner monologue is ten times faster than verbal speech and can fire assumptions at us like a machine gun. But one question can slow it right down, whether we are anticipating darkness in 2018 in our lives or just gloom from supporting our chosen team. It’s a question many coaches ask. It’s a question that raises the possibility of dawn. It’s a what if. What if our assumptions are wrong?